First thing is first: This is an uncomfortable conversation.
Please read to the end. There’s an entire thought process I have going here and I would love for you to see it through and then provide feedback. I would love an open discussion because I am always open to hear how someone else thinks. I am not here for arguments so don’t start.
Second thing: I am in no way saying any of this is acceptable, I am in no way okay with the idea of adults harming a child. I have three beautiful daughters and I would go to jail for them if needed. So I don’t play around with any of this. This matter is highly serious and highly disturbing. I’m just saying, we all know that people like this exist and they aren’t going away unfortunately. We have to stop being uncomfortable talking about it. It’s real and it’s sick as hell but these people have serious problems!! Not an excuse, but as other people, we typically try to fix people with problems right?
Let’s talk about it!
I kept seeing angry people post about Amazon having this on their Prime selections. At first, I was skeptical, but I didn’t judge until I watched it. One note, this documentary was created in 2016. So for people to bring it up now that this is trending, that’s a slick move. However, if you had a problem with it, why didn’t you talk about it in 2016?
I want everyone to take the time (as I just did) to watch this if you haven’t. You must not watch this with a closed mind.
This documentary wasn’t created to normalize pedophilia as many people are saying. It was meant to bring awareness to the problem at hand to prevent this shit from happening in the first place. Normalizing something is like the fight for the LGBTQ community who continuously fight for their right to love who they want to love and society is finally accepting that because that’s not bad whatsoever. Who cares if it’s a male and male or female and female. It better not be a child though, that’s obviously extremely wrong. This documentary is not saying that pedophilia should be accepted in that form. This documentary is simply stating that there may be a way to stop these people from hurting their targets if we acknowledge the problem in the right ways. From what I can see, we all want to fix this problem we have right? We want pedophiles to stop fucking hurting our children! We want sick people to keep their thoughts in their heads, let alone even think them in the first place. We can’t stop someone’s thoughts though.
Therefore, if you are #saveourchildren and promoting this recent trend, which BTW, has been around forever, sex trafficking, children being molested and sexually abused, this has been a thing, I’m glad people are finally talking about it! It’s the same way #blacklivesmatter has been a thing but the hash tag dies out after a few months until the next time. Why is there always a next time?
Don’t jump on a bandwagon if you’re not about to actually try to make effective change or bring awareness to things that can prevent this from occurring.
Pedophilia is sick and twisted, absolutely. It would be easier to just kill these people instead of trying to help. However, our current systems in place isn’t the death penalty and how are you going to change that? Take it into your own hands? Sure, but even the victims who kill their abusers have to go to jail for a bit until a judge rules that it was justified…. what kind of system do we even have in place? Why do we have to ask if it was justified to kill someone who was hurting me?
Our current systems in place includes some jail time and a label for the pedophiles, sometimes the prisoners take things into their own hands behind the bars. That isn’t enough. These people who are potentially mentally ill (not an excuse) but they are going to act again because the value of acting upon their thoughts are higher than the effects of “punishment”. Repeat offenders are a thing because our justice system isn’t punishing shit. If they were, there wouldn’t be “repeat offenders” 🤯
Nothing is stopping this from happening. There are people as young as 14-17 , maybe younger, that figure out they like kids. That the 8 year old they liked when they were 8 years old, they still like the 8 year old even though they themselves are now 14-15 years of age. They are scared, because what can they do about it? They are realizing like oh shit, I have a problem, society is going to hate me, I don’t know what to do. Then before you know it, it’s too late.
True story, from the documentary, a 17 year old reached out for help because he realized he had a problem. He told someone, “if you don’t hear from me again, I’m contemplating suicide.” He killed himself at 17 and his parents may not even know why.
For the answer to the “what can I do?” I know there are obvious ones. Perhaps they should just change their thoughts, sure. Stop thinking like that, just go find someone who is their own age. Great advice! However, instead of instantly turning away from these people, let’s study them and figure out to see, can they do that and if so how? If we’re being honest, I’m not sure if you’ve ever tried to change your thoughts, it’s doable, but it’s difficult.
There are studies being conducted to show that the brain in pedophiles are actually different because the connections, connectivity tissue, something like this, and the white matter in the brain, are different than the males who find older females or females their age attractive. Literal evidence that the brain elicits the same response in a pedophile when they see a child or teen that are elicited in heterosexual males when they see a grown female. What do you do about that? Can you change it? We change the brain with therapy and medicine usually. Right?
There are people who try to get help before they act out but there’s no help because society fkn hates pedophiles and rightfully so. Again, I’m not agreeing with what these people do. I’m saying, how can we truly stop what’s happening? In our entire world, there are only 2 research groups working on this because that’s how uncomfortable we are with this concept.
Fact check: there are over 250,000 people who have pedophilic tendencies in Germany alone. In Canada, an estimated 160,000. What do you think the numbers are for our country? There are people who will never act on their tendencies or thoughts. There are people you don’t even know that are having these private thoughts and you are their friend, family member, coworker, etc. These sick people are around you and it’s not by your choice. Whether you want to acknowledge that or not.
If we can stop them from acting on these sick thoughts, we can decrease child sex trafficking and molestations that occur around our own city everyday.
There are some resources for people who need help to stop yourself from doing something regrettable and dumb.
There’s also a group called virtuous pedophiles which is a terrible name, they try to help each other not act on their tendencies as well, taking an oath to celibacy, I understand this entire shit is twisted, it’s uncomfortable as hell to even write about and to think about the judgment of this post. It’s terrifying actually because I know this can all get twisted and I know people are going to say, “They are trying to normalize it” and I understand how it looks like that and to some degree they are trying to normalize that this exists but they are not justifying these actions are correct. It’s not people saying, “It’s so normal for them to feel this way towards kids!”. I think it’s people saying, “There’s a way to prevent this from happening, let’s figure out how to do that!”
Here’s a story from a regular person who was a photographer I believe (not a pedophile) who joined the virtuous pedophiles group to get insight on it.
All I’m saying is, truly educate yourself. We can make a difference. We just have to figure out how to be a little uncomfortable to do so. So uncomfortable that I’ve been writing this post literally all day. Trying to find the best way to say this while being uncomfortable even saying it. Help these sick people, how could I think of that? I think of the bigger picture. The picture of taking the time to get uncomfortable to save innocent children from being touched inappropriately or even worse. If these current researchers have the foundation for potentially treating these sick thoughts, wouldn’t you agree that we should try to prevent them from acting on their thoughts. Or do you agree with our current system of pretending these people don’t exist and let’s act super fucking shocked when there is another news story about this.
Break the cycle.
Step out of your comfort zone, read and watch things to truly learn, and figure out how you can help the problem. If you want to push for these people to get help, push for that. If you want to push instant death penalty for them, then push that. If you want to take it upon yourself to handle these issues, figure something out. But do more proactive things than mindlessly sharing information because you read it on someone’s post.
There’s more that we can and should be doing, I’m going to try to figure that out.
The following projects are also out for catching pedophiles and you should support these people as well, as they are proactively fighting the war against sex trafficking and sexual abuse of a child or adolescent. So, if everyone can fight the war, one of the many wars we have in our country and world, then the world may be one step closer to finding the peace.
It may be the one you never thought would be the one.
Fucked upness doesn’t stop there.
Racism is alive and living ain’t fair.
The economy is crashing.
But let’s focus on the kids.
School is almost back in session.
Virtual or classroom, take a pick.
Another wave of stimulus checks.
Yay, that’ll pay another month’s rent.
But then… what’s next?
Landlords starting to evict.
Streets are crowding, filling up quick.
Where do people go now when they get sick?
Hospitals are full, fingers crossed you make it.
This is it?
This is life?
Black lives matter.
Wash your hands. 20 seconds no less.
Wear your mask.
Back the blue .
Help the needy. Do what you can do.
Save the kids.
This is not another trend.
This is it?
This is life?
Do your best.
*Note: I hope everyone is doing okay and I really hope this poem doesn’t affect you. It’s real life and if you’re going through any of this I wish there was a way to help. If anyone needs help I can share and publicize fundraisers and what not. I’m hoping for better days soon! Stay strong. We’re in the together! 💪
prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.”a program to combat racism”
Let’s be real, that’s what we are here for.
Slavery started in 1619, when African Americans were forced to come to America (also a country that Columbus FORCED others out of so he could colonize it). We got that down, Europeans forced others that weren’t like them to come and work for them for free in negligent conditions, after forcing the Native Americans out of their own land as well.
Slavery supposedly ended in 1865. After 246 years. We’re talking hundreds of years of people learning and accepting that people of darker skin color were different and meant to be treated different. That’s hundreds of years of people thinking that it was okay to treat other people this way. I’m not sure how long it takes you to learn a habit and then break it but I’m pretty sure after 246 years, changing someone’s mind was going to be pretty hard. So after 246 years of abuse, the people who were minding their own damn business on their own continent in the first place are freed.
Then the racist people were like, alright we can’t fucking force y’all to work for us or beat y’all anymore, but we also don’t have to make life easy for you. Thus the button on segregation was activated.
Segregate anyone who is different based on skin color. Wtf even is that? Like ooo these people are a different color… let’s make life hard for them. Okay so segregation begins and life continues to be harder for people who had darker skin color, but to the lighter skinned people, they were like, “Be happy we aren’t beating you anymore, but only because it’s illegal now, or else we would!” Lighter skin people continue to be raised with hatred in their hearts and all the light colored people flourish while the darker skin people struggle.
Segregation “ended” in 1964!! After another 99 fucking years, someone finally said it was wrong that people were being treated this way. That maybe all people should have an opportunity to do something with their lives, but really, people were still going to make it hard. Why? Because these minorities just spent 345 years having to learn survival skills. They had to learn how to adapt to a racist society. Because for 345 years people learned it was okay that treating people of different skin colors was acceptable. Because for 345 years, people of color learned skills to survive in a country where they would never be accepted, but it was all they knew, so they had to stay. In order to stay, they had to learn how to steal, hunt, educate themselves on limited resources, to survive in a world that was only meant for the people that had an opportunity. That’s just the surface of the problem.
In turn, people of color taught their children their skills. Taught them how to survive in a unfair world. Some people break through barriers because of it and some continue to struggle because not everyone is meant for survival. Some people are better at it than others. So some people weren’t taught the same skills and thus some people struggle to survive and that is what is being passed on to their generations. So behavior is very learned but it can be changed.
We only teach what we know and accept and that is an opinion. We teach our opinions to our offspring and they can in turn develop their own opinions, but if we’ve nurtured them enough in our own ways, chances are high that they will think in a similar manner. So how do we change the learned behavior of racism? Is this a problem that will eventually wean itself out after another 345 years because enough people are teaching their offspring that racism is wrong? Will there ever be a point where all of the people who grew up learning hatred will be gone? Is this something we can truly combat?
I just wanted to put into perspective how many years of teaching and learning racist people have, and that those people who were alive and being taught that segregation was okay, that had grandparents and great grandparents raising them and teaching them about slavery times. Teaching them that people with different skin color are different. They have raised young children as well, they have raised them to have those same thought processes.
So we can start with reforming the police department but that won’t fix anything. We need to start re-teaching America. Let these horrid acts be in the history but also let the other perspectives be in history. We learn about the Holocaust in school and think how horrific that sounds because they teach it as being such a bad event! The history I learned in school was wrong and it definitely didn’t teach how not to hate, but only taught me that racism existed and it was up to me to figure out if it is wrong. It’s also up to the parents to teach their children that when they come home from school and tell you about a book that literally tells the story of a boy who was bullied because of his skin color, to tell them that is wrong. To tell them you don’t like that book because it’s literally teaching you how to hate. To tell them to argue with their teachers about Columbus Day. Yes, my kid will say, every single year, my mom says Columbus Day shouldn’t exist because he’s a mass murderer.
However our older generations didn’t have that. They learned and learned, time and time again, that they were better than people who had different skin color. They were given a head start at life with opportunity open to them no matter what! Now it is up to these older people who existed back then to continue to fight against it if they did so in the past, teaching their kids that it’s wrong, raising people the right way, or be stuck in their ways that this is how America is and there’s nothing wrong with your perspective.
People today argue slavery ended. People today argue that racism and segregation are loonnngg gone. People today say that black people and other minorities are “overreacting”. People today can shut the fuck up!
At the end of the day, remember, someone could decide that you’re too light for society so you shouldn’t be treated as a human being! Since we get to make rules up and shit. This is America!